What should be educated in the souls of our children?

We are so anxious about knowledge, and most importantly, the most important thing is to teach children sympathy, empathy and compassion. A child who does not see the tired eyes of his mother does not notice the yellowed face of his father, who runs to see what is in the bag, and if they did not bring anything, he expresses dissatisfaction, throws a tantrum - this is a deuce for us, not a child.

So teach: “Are you asking me to do this? But you didn't ask if I have the strength? Look at me, I don't have them. You didn't ask if I had the opportunity. Here is my wallet, and there is no possibility. And you didn't ask if I have a desire, but I don't have it. I don’t have it, because I don’t see attention to myself, understanding, help.”

Therefore, we are not in a hurry to fulfill the desires of our child, but we try to make the child see our condition, our capabilities, strength, fatigue, our weakness. Don't be afraid to show it. Sometimes it is even necessary to do this: "I'm tired, help me, please bring a pillow"; "give me a glass of water, please"; "thank you, I'll rest, and then we'll get back to your problem." Later, when I rest. We teach the children to understand that so much depends on us, and we must be protected.

And we must initially tell the child why he came into this life. “Why did the Lord create you? For the Kingdom of Heaven? Yes. But it is high, far away, and it is very difficult to go to it. And the path to it is simple. It consists of three components, which are based on service. The first service is to parents. It is you who will then have to say: "Father, mother, I will buy you medicines, I will put you at the head of the table, it is I who will put your old age to rest." How will children react to our old age, untidy, painful? After all, mom will no longer be so smart and so fast. Will we remain mom and dad for them, or will we be the ancestors who smoked this sky?

The second service is to my family. “If you are given your own family, you will have to serve this family, feed, protect, educate your children, lay in them those spiritual and moral values ​​that you yourself will have to know about.”

And the third service is to the Fatherland. We are so afraid of the word "motherland", "patriotism", we run away from these words. And you don't have to avoid them. To serve the motherland with one's talent, the birth, and upbringing of children is the highest mission. Let our children know as soon as possible.

Orthodox psychologist Tatyana Vorobyova