About love
Love will not exist without our efforts; it can be compared to a fire, a bonfire or a hearth. Once upon a time, in ancient times, our ancestors did not have matches or lighters. The fire was of great value, it was not so easy to light it, and there were special keepers of the fire, hearth, and duty officers who did not let the fire go out. They put brushwood and logs in it, constantly preserving and supporting it. The Holy Passion-Bearer Empress Alexandra Feodorovna wrote: “The happiness of life is made up of individual minutes, from small, quickly forgotten pleasures: from kissing, smiling, kind glance, heartfelt compliment and countless small but kind thoughts and sincere feelings. Love needs its daily bread. " We are all sorely lacking in sunlight. Our country is not very sunny, and this, by the way, greatly influences the mood of its inhabitants. In countries where there are many sunny days a year (for example, in Brazil), people suffer much less depression and despondency. And the spouses should become suns for each other. Create a sunny, joyful mood in the family, give another smile, tenderness, comfort and support. And, of course, do not forget to THANK your loved ones for everything they do for us.
It has already been noted that a person, including in marriage, undergoes changes throughout life. Life in a family, relations between spouses should not stand still, if they do not have development, positive dynamics, there is a great risk that crises, age-related changes and other life circumstances will damage the family ship.
In so many married couples, at the beginning of their journey, life resembles a boiling kettle. A fire burns under it, it boils, seethes, people are in love with each other, passions boil, and it seems to them that it will be like this forever. But then it was as if someone had extinguished the fire under the kettle. And now it boils less, then the water begins to cool down, first +70, + 50C °, and then it completely becomes room temperature. The fire went out, and all passions and feelings cooled down. And everything should be exactly the opposite. The bride and groom enter into marriage, having certain initial feelings, the fire of family life is kindled and every year, with each new period of life, the feelings of the spouses, their love grows, its degree rises, they get to know each other better, discover something new and their love eventually reaches its boiling point.
Love before marriage can be compared to the seed of a tree (like an apple tree). Young people plant it, and every year it grows, gets stronger and then becomes a beautiful tree and begins to bear fruit.
Marriage is comparable to a flower, a plant. The flower needs care, daily watering, attention, if you do not water it, at least for a few days, it will wither, dry out. Everyone, I think, had to wander through the beautiful, well-tended garden, enjoying the beauty and scent of magnificent flowers and trees. But every garden has its own gardeners. And if the garden is left without care, it will perish. The flowers will wither, the trees will run wild over time, and will no longer bear fruit like that, their fruits will become tasteless.
Love, life in marriage is a daily, painstaking work, work, but work also brings great joy and satisfaction. What was not achieved with difficulty is often not appreciated.
Priest Pavel Gumerov
